"Hot Carb Summer" Weekly Wisdom

What are you doing for vacation this summer?

I just got back from a fun little getaway to Milwaukee with my friend Jason and I LOVED IT! All we planned was booking a hotel and then just winged it when we got there.  It was our #hotcarbsummer getaway inspired by my friend Nicole's genius hashtag with beer, pretzels and desserts. This is not like me to have a spontaneous vacation and it was 100% worth it. 

This summer I think it is more about the vacations and time away we didn't get last year. And it reminds me of the privilege it is to go on vacation. When I was a kid, I got to see a lot of the United States with my family. It may have been in the back of a car or minivan, but they always made time to take us somewhere every summer. We packed our snacks of fruit, Pringles and Skittles, loaded up on batteries for our Walkmans and had our fluffiest pillow ready for the car ride. I was so lucky!  I didn't realize it at the time and may have complained along the way, but I was so lucky.  

It is hard for me to understand the spectrum of family vacations. One end is nothing, families that do not have the resources or the time to go somewhere and then the other way of families going to all inclusive beach vacations or 2 weeks trips to Europe. It is hard for a kid to comprehend their picnic lunch to local park when their best friend is lying on the beach in Mexico with all they care to eat ice cream for a week. I know I would have struggled with it as a kid. 

As an adult, I know a vacation does not need to be an exotic location, or long in length. It just needs to be with the ones you care about the most to decompress, laugh and enjoy your time together. It may be a road trip or a 8 hour flight, it may cost $10 or $10,000 dollars - but there is no price tag for the memories you make. 

Whatever you do for a summer vacation, I hope you feel cute, eat lots of carbs, have all the fun, relax and have an endless supply of Skittles. 





"Forgiveness" Weekly Wisdom


Inspirational Quote in Black Letters on a grey background with white polka dots

What is the hardest thing you forgave?

Ooooo isn't the hardest question?  I know you are probably sitting there thinking really hard about forgiveness. You may be thinking of something you want to forgive, but just can't (yet), it may be something you worked really hard to find peace with, it maybe be something you have done yourself and you are waiting to be forgiven. We all carry something, something that is hard to think about. 

Whenever I think of forgiveness, it takes me back to my religion and going to confession. If you have never heard of this, it is when you go speak with a priest and share something that is weighing heavy on your heart. I remember my first time. I was so scared because I didn't want anyone to be mad at me, I didn't want to think I did something wrong and looked down on. Being in 4th grade, I made up some story about being mean to my sister, which probably was true in some extent but was just something to say. As I got older, I learned it was more of a conversation with a third party, not related to the situation who was just trying to help me give myself the gift of forgiving myself for something I was sincerely not proud of. 

I also learned, if I live my life with the moral code and standards I have set for myself, I have less need for confession conversations and more need to have conversations on how to strengthen the walls of the house I live in. And that requires some intense cleaning, especially behind doors that you just don't want to open. All those doors, all those walls, all those crevices building who I am today. 

When someone does something wrong, it is easy to forget all the things they did right. Holding onto the wrong only hurts me and makes my house weak. 

Remember all the building blocks of the house you live in - the strongly shaped and the ones that crumbled. Remember the people who were helping you build. Maybe they weren't the right contractor at the time but it opened you up to finding the right one to fix the mistakes and for you to move on. If you haven't moved on, there is no greater gift than giving yourself the gift of forgiveness. It's the imperfectly perfect wrapped package of the journey you are living. 




"Sometimes You Need to Slow Down" Weekly Wisdom

After being at home this past year are you more on the go?

I kind of feel like not a thing has really changed since last year and now everyone has massive FOMO and are going all the places all the time. Everything is busier, the roads, the stores, airplanes, our brains...we are heading right back to massive overload. Is this really a good thing?

If you really want to go fast, you really need to slow down. 

I cannot be mad at the past year whatsoever. I enjoyed the slowing down because I feel like I actually took the time to look at where I was in my life, what I needed to work on and what I really want to do with my life. I found the answer isn't running all over the place, starting 60 projects and half ass finishing them, pushing off dealing with the hard things with retail or beauty therapy. It's about truly slowing down, doing 1 or 2 things really well and celebrating with treating myself with something I enjoy. 

If you have things you want to do or have started and can't seem to finish something you keep starting and re-starting, consider just slowing down the everyday hustle. You will be amazed with your sense of accomplishment and giving yourself the gift of time. Remember time, is our biggest currency - spend it wisely.